I don’t know you … or your husband.

But I’ll share with you something about men (some of us) and the women we love.

Your attractiveness gauge isn’t set by us. It is set by YOU. If your man is like me, what draws us to you isn’t your dress size … your hair texture/length/quantity …

What YOU see in the mirror isn’t what WE see when we look at you.

My mother-in-law, my wife and I were at a restaurant and they were catching up and talking about the old days. The topic somehow got around to inappropriate clothing and my mother-in-law shared a story about her husband at the time buying her sexy lingerie … and how inappropriate it was because “she doesn’t have the looks to wear something like that”. My wife supported the comment (she has a self-image issue, too).

As usual, I was more listening than talking. But I did blurt something out …

“Have you ever considered that maybe that’s how HE sees you?”

This comment sticks with me because it stunned both my wife and my mother-in-law; as if neither one of them had ever ONCE considered that fact. My wife gushed about how sweet I was .. blah blah blah.

This little exchange really made me realize what a problem self-image is for so many women … and your story made me want to share this with you.

What did he say, by the way? My guess is that if you get to the root of things? Your appearance and “hot factor” has nothing to do with the gap of affection you’re seeing. Maybe look a bit deeper…?

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